Friendships should be built on mutual respect, trust, and support.
However, if you constantly feel drained, manipulated, or undervalued in a friendship, you might be dealing with a narcissist.
Narcissistic individuals often display patterns of self-centeredness, lack of empathy, and a need for admiration.
These are traits that can make friendships one-sided and toxic.
Here are 10 signs that your bestie may be a narcissist.
They dominate every conversation
Narcissists love talking about themselves, their achievements, their problems, and their opinions while showing little interest in yours.
If your friend constantly steers conversations back to themselves and interrupts or dismisses your thoughts, it’s a red flag.
They lack empathy
A narcissistic friend struggles to genuinely empathise with your feelings.
They may downplay your struggles, change the subject when you’re upset, or even blame you for your emotions.
They crave constant admiration
Narcissists need excessive praise and validation.
If your friend fishes for compliments, gets upset when they’re not the center of attention, or becomes jealous when others succeed, they likely have narcissistic tendencies.
They gaslight you
Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic where someone makes you doubt your own reality.
A narcissistic friend might deny saying hurtful things, twist past events, or accuse you of overreacting to avoid accountability.
They only care about you when they need something
Narcissists often view friendships as transactional.
If your friend only reaches out when they need a favour, emotional support, or an ego boost but disappears when you need help, they’re likely using you.
They can’t handle criticism
Even mild feedback can trigger extreme defensiveness in a narcissist.
They may respond with anger, passive-aggressive remarks, or play the victim instead of reflecting on their behavior.
They love to one-up you
If you share good news, they’ll try to outdo it.
If you share a struggle, they’ll claim theirs is worse.
Narcissists always need to feel superior, making genuine celebration or commiseration impossible.
They talk badly about others
Narcissists often gossip, belittle, or backstab others to elevate themselves.
If your friend constantly criticises people behind their backs, chances are they do the same about you when you’re not around.
They never apologise sincerely
A narcissistic friend may give a half-hearted “sorry” to shut you up but rarely takes real responsibility.
They might also follow it with excuses (“I was just joking!”) or blame-shifting (“You’re too sensitive”).
You feel drained after spending time with them
Healthy friendships leave you feeling uplifted.
If you consistently feel exhausted, anxious, or insecure after interacting with your friend, it’s a sign their narcissistic behavior is taking a toll.
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